The Delicacy of P.R.O.P.E.R Legacy

2013-Were about this life :)

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 16:00:10 -0500

2013-Were about this life :)

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Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:53:38 -0500

I miss my old Physics class :( shout out to shabs, thato, vee,...

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:52:00 -0500

I miss my old Physics class :( shout out to shabs, thato, vee, luu en zintle <3

@abi_shabs @lerabby :)

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:51:01 -0500

@abi_shabs @lerabby :)

I want to dedicate this to KG :) You’re my light, my joy...

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:50:09 -0500

I want to dedicate this to KG :) You’re my light, my joy and you get me :) and you give the best advice ever. I love you

Lil’ bro’s bday :)

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:48:28 -0500

Lil’ bro’s bday :)

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Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:46:28 -0500

This <3

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:31:35 -0500

Read this on twitter and I was like come at me :)

‘Well I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of his life.

I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple minded man.

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked. Believers mixed with non-believers is a recipe for disaster.

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need financial burden( dont get this line twisted, think deeper).

I need a man who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need a man who is family oriented. One who can be a leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God and by the way I am not looking for him. He will recognize himself in me. You may think i’m asking for a lot but that’s only because I’m worth a lot.’

Hearts on heart :) ^DEALBREAKERS^MARRIAGE^LOVE

suitsusa: Tune in to Suits tonight at 10i/9c! I love, love this...

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:20:02 -0500

suitsusa:

Tune in to Suits tonight at 10i/9c!

I love, love this show :) Just putting it out there.

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Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:15:37 -0500

blackandkillingit: Black Girls Killing It Shop BGKI NOW

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:12:43 -0500

blackandkillingit:

Black Girls Killing It Shop BGKI NOW

So like the Chris Brown Concert :) this man moves. 15-12-12

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 14:53:00 -0500

So like the Chris Brown Concert :) this man moves. 15-12-12

"I’m missing you"

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 14:51:37 -0500

“I’m missing you”

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Sat, 02 Feb 2013 14:50:37 -0500

So yes, yes were a bit late for all the Happy New Year posts but...

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 14:41:00 -0500

So yes, yes were a bit late for all the Happy New Year posts but we might as well ey :) HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL! Hoping for a good one. 2013- PRE-MATRIC, awkward age of turning 17, getting closer to God, achieving all our dreams.

Reblog if I can message you 'hi' and start a friendship.

Sat, 24 Nov 2012 04:00:18 -0500

Naledi Sibisi: If I Ever Have A Daughter

Sat, 24 Nov 2012 01:57:43 -0500

Naledi Sibisi: If I Ever Have A Daughter:

vintagesoulyoungheart:

naledisibisi

If I ever have a daughter, I won’t teach her to stay away from boys because boys have cooties. They don’t. And cooties, cooties are an irrational fear.

I won’t teach her that she will say her goodnights in the cemetery if she is physically close to the opposite sex; if she dares to get near.

If I ever have a daughter I will teach her one lesson, and that is to guard her heart.

I will tell my girl to treat her heart as though it is the king’s treasure because it is. Her eyes must act like the dogs that detect a perpetrator the minute he steps into her radar. Her lips, the judges that challenge any and every trespasser - appointed to make informed decisions about such curious cases.

They will know a criminal mind the minute it is in their presence because his eyes will whisper authenticity. His hands will nurture as though they were the identical twins of her mothers. His smile will make her feel safe, but his spirit, his spirit will samba all over the room.

You see, I will teach her that the boy who knows instinct is no keeper of her heart. The boy who can clothe her in infinite tears only to make them vanish like it was all an illusion is a waste of ink on well rendered vows. The boy who speaks love but displays no sacrifice is not the one she will spend the rest of her mornings waking up next to.

If I ever have a daughter I will teach her irregular sleeping patterns because it appears the one’s she chooses to stay up for, one sentence after the next, one giggle after the next, accumulating smiles - those are the ones who could not set aside time for her during the day when their significant others were awake.

If I ever have a daughter, she’ll know your name. She’ll know who to compare to you if ever she trips and almost falls flat on her face.

If I ever have a daughter she’ll be acquainted with composure, the wound-less soldier who pushed to the end of the war filled with no proof of battle scars because her mother taught her never to let her guard down.

Naledi Sibisi

Naledi Sibisi: The Gatsby Complex

Sat, 24 Nov 2012 01:53:32 -0500

Naledi Sibisi: The Gatsby Complex:

naledisibisi:

This shouldn’t be funny. It could be, it will be, but it’s not meant to be. This is an epiphany I had in high school and over the years I’ve grown to see how it underpins most of our interactions with one another. There will be rambles and tangents, but this will be fundamental critique of the human condition. All this came from what I believe is one the most important pieces of literature ever written: The Great Gatsby. So bear with me, as I elucidate my admittedly convoluted thought process.

Jay was a poor boy enjoying his summer when he met Daisy. And that’s where his world ended. She was everything he’d hoped for, dreamt of, she was alpha. She was alpha and she wanted him back. Picture Rosaline saying she likes Romeo back before he falls for Juliet. He was poor, she was rich, but he had her believe he was the same. Like when Aladdin went back to jasmine as Prince Ali. But summer, like all good things, comes to an end. He was off to war and she was back with her wealthy family. She tried waiting for him, but eventually gave up. But that summer, that fleeting bubble, was enough to convince Jay that he wasn’t good enough for her as a poor boy off to war. Daisy was his everything, and he vowed to dedicate his whole life to making himself worthy of the woman he loves. He would be rich, he would be powerful, he would be smart, he would be her everything, because she WAS his everything. So he spent the next few years hustling, getting involved in anything that could make him money, legal or otherwise. Eventually he made enough to buy the biggest most opulent house across the lake where they met all those years ago. And he’d throw party after party in the hope of finding his once and forever again. Eventually she came, but things had changed, she was married now, to Tom. But in Jay’s eyes she was still the girl he met that summer all those years ago, she was still everything. What followed was Jay hosting more parties and working more and more to steal Tom’s wife. Eventually there’s a confrontation which leads to Daisy leaving Tom for Jay. But Daisy isn’t the same girl Jay fell in love with. She’s selfish, fickle and irresponsible. Jay’s unwillingness to see this is what eventually leads to his destruction. She leaves him to go back to Tom, and doesn’t attend his funeral after he’s murdered. And that’s his fault. He didn’t see things as they were. He had, what I call, A Gatsby Complex.

The Gatsby complex occurs when you magnify the qualities you adore in a person that you fail to see who they fundamentally are. There’s nothing to say Daisy wasn’t selfish, fickle, and irresponsible when they met that summer. It’s very possible she hasn’t changed at all, but Jay, blinded by love couldn’t see it, to his and others’ detriment. Perception is Reality. But Objectivism (Google it, one of the architects of the financial crisis swears by it) teaches us that there is a “real” reality that exists no matter how we perceive our world. It’s essentially saying that as much as you believe the world is a clean beautiful place, the REAL world is dirty and will continue to exist long after you die. We perceive things as we want to perceive them, and not as they are. And this is why we fail.

As much as we develop Gatsby complexes over other people, they apply to ourselves as well. Most people are not self-aware. That’s not to say they don’t know aspects of themselves, it’s to say they don’t see themselves objectively. Accountants call this recognising an asset at fair value. Yeah you know you want to be successful, but are you willing to work? You’re a good person, but are you willing to admit you’re selfish? Are you willing to admit you don’t mind spending your days living on your parents’ allowance? Are you willing to admit you put up provocative photos of yourself because you know you have nothing else to offer? Are you willing to admit you ain’t shit? Exactly. People need to realise that as much as they have bad qualities, it doesn’t automatically make them bad people. However, not recognising who you really are, leads to a sense of entitlement.

As cynical as I sound I truly believe there are more than enough compatible partners out there for everybody. We just need to recognise ourselves for who we are and them for who they are. Don’t fall in love with the idea of a person, fall in love with the person as they are. Maybe they’ll realise their potential, maybe they won’t, but if you made peace with who they were beforehand you should be happy either way. It’s not easy to rein in your emotions, such an integral feature of the human experience, but it’s better to be disappointed than it is to be hurt. Do your research, pay attention, and be reasonable. My favourite kind of hope is that of something being as real as it seems to be. The disappointment of something being too good to be true still hurts, but nowhere near as profoundly as the realisation that as much as you hope for change, change isn’t coming. Don’t let your emotions show you things that aren’t there. The world exists outside of your perception of it, and so do the people that inhabit it. Perception is NOT reality.

Gatsby sold himself an idea of Daisy. He didn’t see her for who she was, he saw her for who he she was in his eyes. He sacrificed almost everything to make his dream a reality, and that eventually led to the ultimate sacrifice. He cultivated an idea of the Great Gatsby for this girl that didn’t exist outside of him. The problem was the world didn’t have space for both the Great Gatsby, and the Real Gatsby.

from ‘The Gatsby Complex’

Lebohang Sibisi

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Sat, 24 Nov 2012 00:49:32 -0500

nuugga:

wo1verines:

sea-green-love:

areann92:

lifesacarnival-:

justanotherwide-eyedgirl:

His pledge to her:

i will kill the spiders. i will share my fries with you when you’ve finished all yours and are still hungry. i won’t ever pop my collar. i will never be rude to your tummy- when i hear it growl and gurgle. i promise to bend down and reply respectfully. i will eat the mushrooms when we order the supreme pizza. i will kiss the papercuts. and the door-slammed finger, and the counter-bumped hip. i’ll try my hardest not to get annoyed when you whisper questions and comments during movies. i will be the big spoon. i will let you win at wrestling, sometimes. other times i will not. i will go faster. harder. i will pull when you want. and tease you when you don’t. i will send you random texts and leave you silly gifts. not always. not on schedule. just whenever i want to. whenever i think you need one. or seven. i will check your tire pressure. and remind you to take your car in. i will hold your hand. i will love you. i will love you. i will love you.

I’m pretty sure I’ve reblogged this before, but it’s so perfect.

This is perfect.

i love this so much

Omg 😔😥